How to Talk to Your Parents about Sensitive Healthcare Issues

Many adult children of elderly parents complain that their parents do not listen to their advice. While that may be true, and if you feel like you are one of those, it may have something to do with your methods and delivery. 

To start with no matter how old our parents are, many of them still think of us as kids. After all, to them it wasn’t that long ago they were telling us what to do. That being said, there are a few tips from the experts to help us talk to our parents more effectively regarding sensitive subjects including healthcare.

While generally it is best to not give unsolicited advice to a parent, there are times when it may be necessary. This includes a fear that they are putting themselves in harm’s way by not getting the care they need to ensure their safety and wellbeing. 

To start the “conversation” the first thing you want to do is to pick your time and place. Don’t try to broach big problems at a family gathering or when you know your parent is tired or stressed. Once you calmly tell them your concerns, then give them the time to respond, and make sure you really listen. Ask thoughtful questions and see if they have a better solution. 

Refrain from sounding condescending or argumentative, and remember you want to be supportive not controlling. In fact you may find your parent had already come to the same conclusion you had regarding their care but are struggling with the idea of giving up some of their independence. 

At the MorningStar at Golden Ridge senior living community, we understand some of the angst that goes into making these types of lifestyle changes, which is why our website offers some useful resources to help families through the process. On our website you will find contact information. We also encourage you to request a copy of “Senior Life: How to have the Best Conversation Ever with Your Elder Parent,” which offers an explanation of the relational and psychological constructs of aging and legacy. 

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